It's Okay To Be Fake....

No seriously, it's okay to be fake. As it has been said before, life is a stage and you are just a character fulfilling  the roll of your lifetime. Here's the disclaimer: You Must... I repeated You Must know yourself in order for this to work. So after you have established who you are, you can use this technique to handle stress. 

Now the goal of this method is to remove yourself from hostile situations. The secret to this method is to ultimately get your counterpart to act or reacted the way you want or need them to. Now what I am about to say is not unfamiliar. Here it is... Kindness. The role that you have to fake is kindness. You have heard sayings such as "kill them with kindness" and "you can attract more bees with honey then vinegar". The truth is these sayings are correct. Think about it, it is hard to be mean to a nice person. 

This is the role. This is your moment.  This is your performance of your lifetime.  Now here is the trick, your niceness has to be genuine. Or at least it needs to seem genuine. Some will call it "faking it until you make it", I call it channeling your inner niceness. Now this may sounds easy, but you have to stay in character. You cannot revert back into the "keep it real" you (please refer to "When Keeping it Real Goes Wrong"). You cannot sound condescending, or fake. If you do you have failed. 

You may think..."if I assume this nice role people will walk right over me". No! No I say, that is farther from the truth. You do not let this person walk over you, you just say the same thing in a nice voice. By doing so, you are controlling your emotions thus controlling the conversation. Showing anger, frustration, or aggravation reveals weakness and people will sense this.

Having control of your emotions also allows you to control your stress levels. A stressless life will better your mental health as well as physical health. One more thing, I must warn you this method is best used at work or around people who do not know you as well.

So beginning today let's not call this fakeness lets call it ACTING!