Disclaimer: This message is meant to enlighten an not offend. However, it may come off offensive.
So you have accomplish your ultimate goal of getting that man by any means necessary. Not only have you broken a relationship, you have ruin a family, you have wrecked a home, you pretty much tornado through a lifestyle without blinking an eye. And all you have to show for it is a man. A man who was willing to allow this to happen.
What do you have to say for yourself? Let me guess, "obviously it must not be her man I have him!" or is it, "I'm not married to her. He is responsible for her heart break". Silly rabbit... This is not an accomplishment. This is a sign of desperation, a cry for help, an indication of low self-esteem.
Ladies! Ladies! Ladies! What makes you so special. Is it the curve in your hips, the sway in your hair, or the tone in your voice? Is it the grace in your walk the sparkle in your eye, or the confidence in your talk. What makes you so different? Or is it the fact that you have not developed out of what Erickson coined the "id development stage" where your life's mission is just to please yourself.
I say this because you find a lot of women who think "oh he won't treat me like that". This statement always seems to come after a start of a new relationship that ended a previous relationship. Understand this, patterns of behavior rarely change. Do you understand the definition of loyalty, fidelity, respect?! If this is how your relationship started, how do you think it will end? If this is how your relationship started, how do you trust this person?
I guess I am only saying... make your life easier. Get your own man! If he is taken now, then maybe he will be available later with no strings attached. If not, then maybe he is not the one for you. Have you ever thought about that in this light? First, what goes around comes around, and the funny thing is karma has a way to get you when you least expect it.
One more thing, this message is not for women who were in these situation unknowingly. Love yourself enough to have someone who loves you enough to keep your mind, body, and soul at ease. When you find that special someone and you are not preoccupied with the notion of a possible accidental affair, your love life will be free to soar. Trust Me!
Once again, don't be mad. Just Don't Be That Woman!
very well written sistah! Speak the truth words are powerful you might have mad a woman snap back to reality with this one! Thumbs up!!!!
ReplyDeleteWe have to promote "the sisterhood"! No one is going to look out for us if we do not look out for ourselves. We need to raise our standards.
ReplyDeleteHallelujah!! I'm so tired of those tired lines from "the other women" 'if she did this, he wouldn't have done that'..... we as women have to realize that it's not even about us most of the time. If it wasn't you, it'd be someone else. Yes your mess smells just as bad as hers does despite what he tells you, he just put the ring on her finger..... when she is freed from that relationship IF EVEN BY YOUR HAND, she goes about her life and you KNOW what trash he's bringing because you helped him collect it. Do you HONESTLY want to continue to wallow in it and pray he doesn't do it to you, or shake the dust of your feet and walk freely knowing you don't have to try to watch your man or keep him all the while driving him further away because that's probably what the last woman did before you came into the picture... we want men to come with neon signs warning of impending heartbreak AND THEY DO. If he'd do it to her....he'll do it to you.
ReplyDeleteYour answer was very passionate and I pity the woman who cross your man's path with the wrong intent. Let's take this a step further. This man does not have to be married he can just be in a committed relationship. We as women must understand that love is never unavailable; if it is with the right person. Love will never be controversial; if it's with the right person. Love is not distrustful; if it's with the right person. So from this day forth let's make a pack to not be THAT woman.
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