So you find yourself in a battle. It is the challenge of your life and its titled in lights MOM vs. WIFE and all odds are in her favor. To add to this misery you realized that you have married a man that some would consider a “mama’s boy”; and you want him to change? Good luck with that!
Now what is a girl to do? Well first, take a deep breath because it is time to face reality. This relationship with his mother has been established for years, it will be almost impossible to correct directly. His mother is the woman that has been there and has proven herself countless times. Now little "ole you" has come in an disrupt the "BEE's HIVE". So you need to take a different approach.
Understand this, your husband feels there’s no woman above his mother; and she does not respect you. To change his way of thinking, you must change the way she thinks of you. So first, you have to establish a “relationship” with your mother-in-law. Invite her to do lunch. Go on a shopping spree. Take her to get her nails done. Or simply, ask her what are her interests and plan accordingly.
Your goal is to make her see that you are wonderful. Yes! It’s ridiculous! I know it will not be easy! Take one for your marriage or the future of your relationship! This new found “friendship” will eliminate a lot of conflicts between you and your mother-in-law (future). Ultimately, bringing you closer to your husband; and at the end of the day, he may see you from a different perspective.
The Harsh Reality: This man did not turn into a momma’s boy overnight. You knew the type of man you married. Hold yourself accountable. Take time to find your value and stop competing with his mom.
Now what is a girl to do? Well first, take a deep breath because it is time to face reality. This relationship with his mother has been established for years, it will be almost impossible to correct directly. His mother is the woman that has been there and has proven herself countless times. Now little "ole you" has come in an disrupt the "BEE's HIVE". So you need to take a different approach.
Understand this, your husband feels there’s no woman above his mother; and she does not respect you. To change his way of thinking, you must change the way she thinks of you. So first, you have to establish a “relationship” with your mother-in-law. Invite her to do lunch. Go on a shopping spree. Take her to get her nails done. Or simply, ask her what are her interests and plan accordingly.
Your goal is to make her see that you are wonderful. Yes! It’s ridiculous! I know it will not be easy! Take one for your marriage or the future of your relationship! This new found “friendship” will eliminate a lot of conflicts between you and your mother-in-law (future). Ultimately, bringing you closer to your husband; and at the end of the day, he may see you from a different perspective.
The Harsh Reality: This man did not turn into a momma’s boy overnight. You knew the type of man you married. Hold yourself accountable. Take time to find your value and stop competing with his mom.
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